Reflection for 20th bday and 2009!

Reflection blog for 20 yrs and 2009- all in all 2009 was a great and productive year for me, I ended the year in a much better situation that I started in, I am exactly where I want to be in life right now and couldn’t be happier, I am anticipating 2010 because I know it holds great things for me. 2009 taught me that in a years time, I, Venus can move mountains. I met a lot of people in 2009 and I also left a lot of people in 2009. I have very few regrets for this year, none that I can actually name right off the top of my head. I matured a lot as a person and brought myself an amazing distance in a short 365. 2009 taught me the value of many things and also to stop abusing and misusing other things.

He's just a baby...

this post is def apart of the "So there's this guy" series...(SN: I'm sad that I have made this a series lol ;))

any who

He's only a kidd. 19 yrs young. ):
experience=none
I'm way tooooo advanced for the kid. What am I to do with you? You're a freshhie, I'm a JUNIOOOORRRR.

You just got here, I have one foot out the door and I'm waving "bye bye".

you're just a baby...you're so cure tho. (;

In case you care...

Jingle bash was f-cking awesome. Everybody was there. minus the king, but that was cool! Lil Wayne is a great live performer. Really showed the rest of the entertainers up....that is everyone but TRIGGAAAAA♥ . Trey Songz was great as usual. He brought Keri and Usher with him to perform "inventes Sex" remix!

Gossip Folks

public service announcement to you gossipers
to those of you who gossip and run your mouths like hoes,
and also to those of you who never said anything about it but went and put up a facebook status addressing me about some sh-t that i never said
like a little bitch boy
venus
wants all of you low life nothings to stop gossiping.lieing.spreading rumors on her. you and your entire family. all of you
grow the fuck up and get a life. yall sit around and talk about ppl because you're miserable with your own lives.
you f-cking idiots are so simple you will believe anything
...if it was true...would he and i still be friends.?.! and why do you all care soooo much? i was very upset at first and then i thought about it
...you all couldnt pay my rent even if i need you too. lmao.
get your priorities together get on your feet and then come holla at me. also all of you can eat a d--- and die...
i mean you're not doing anything else with your lives so you're really pointless
and by the way...he and i are happier than ever!!!!!
...since yall care sooooo much. best wishes from him, and i ♥
you don't owe respect to me, and i dont like apologies, just diss me till you're satisfied, i swear it doesnt bother me. -#(;

Gyn much?

Please make sure that you are getting your annual pap smears. Guys please make sure that you are getting tested on if you are engaging in unsafe practices. There is no need to be walking around with any kind of problem and not have it taken care of. Your health is important and for women there is the risk of becoming infertile. So becareful and if it itches see a #doctor

Post Secret of the week.

Postsecret.com is a community project that I have been following for sometime now. Its interesting, hilarious and sometimes sad, on the same day. There are new secrets posted every Sunday. Take a look. its worth a read.

Quick life lesson...

If you have a lot of close friends, you probably have a lot of faces, too.

Loyalty is vintage
-Absolutebrook.com

friends don't come and go <- common misconception.

if they cross you once...they'll cross you twice.

The biggest liar in the world is "They say" <-- remember that!

Guys talk as much as girls do.

Guide that circle above with your life. <--best piece of advice you will ever be given

What ever happened to...

Black Love?

Types of Sex...

Recent research shows that there are 7 kinds of sex:

The 1st kind of sex is called: Smurf Sex
This kind of sex happens when you first meet someone and you both have sex until you are blue in the face.

The 2nd kind of sex is called: Kitchen Sex
This is when you have been with your partner for a short time and you are so horny you will
have sex anywhere, even in the kitchen.

The 3rd kind of sex is called: Bedroom Sex
This is when you have been with your partner for a long time. Your sex has gotten routine
and you usually have sex only in your bedroom.

The 4th kind of sex is called: Hallway Sex
This is when you have been with your partner for too long. When you pass each other in
the hallway you both say “screw you.”

The 5th kind of sex is called: Religious Sex
Which means you get Nun in the morning, Nun in the afternoon and Nun at night.

The 6th kind is called: Courtroom Sex
This is when you cannot stand your wife any more.
She takes you to court and screws you in front of everyone.

And last, but not least, the 7th
kind of sex is called: Social Security Sex
You get a little each month. But not enough to live on.

Invaluable advice from a mother

Never fall in love with another woman's man...he won't choose you!
-My bestie "B"'s mom (Brandy if you didn't knew)

Something Cute...

Girls are like apples...the best ones are at the top of the trees. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because it requires too much work and they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground that aren't as good, but are easy. So the apples at the top think there's somethin wrong with them, when, in reality, they are amazing. They just have 2 wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top♥

Soulja Boy Told 'Em

realize true happiness lies inside of you

Please make a note of this you will probably never ever ever ever hear me quote or mention soulja boy again, but I must agree with this line that he penned for his cover of Drake and Trey Songz’s “Succesful”

Woman to Woman.

In an earlier post I discussed being in a not so monogamous relationship, or being party to someone elses partner’s infidelity. Well what happens when that someone else finds out that you are creeping with her man, or you find out that some other sl-t is sleeping with your guy? What do you do on either side of this sure to be sticky situation?

Other woman; now there are a number of things that you can do when approached by the “girlfriend” and your reaction should be based soley on your situation and understanding with the “boyfriend”, and your sobriety level. Now if you are/were well aware of his relationship with his girlfriend then you already know that when she approaches you about the situation you cannot be the one on the defense as if she is the one in the “wrong”. Also this is not the forum to go and dish all the dirt on you and her “boyfriends” relationship. In this situation you should in my opinion “take one for the team”, and deny, deny, deny. You already know your place to stay there…..on the other hand if you are not aware of GF act in any manner that you choose…I hate a liar.

Girlfriend; Becareful how you approach this situation because it is possible that the other woman knew nothing about you. If she did then act accordingly but if she did not then your beef is not with her but with your boo.

♥ You first

Love your self. The way that you are. The way that god (or whatever you believe) made you. Love the person in the mirror, and know that no changes are necessary and to whoever tells you any different, know that you don’t need them and they are probably unhappy with themselves.

and remember "no one will love you if you don't love yourself first...also when no one loves you, you will always have "self" love (:

love and respect yourself, and your body. Know that you need nothing and no one to make you truly happy. After all the best things in life are free. and you DAMN sure don't need a man to make you happy.

Girlfriend #2

Can you be that other woman? Can you be the one that doesn't fuss, doesn't fight, doesn't argue? I believe that you should set your own rules, standards, path in life. By no means should you allow society/peers to set the things that you believe in, the things that you strive for or aspire to be.

In our society relationships are thought of as follows, one man one woman (or some mix of the two) but basically two partners and no outsiders. However that is not always the case today more than ever imo there are so many “relationships” with 2nd and 3rd boyfriends and girlfriends, where in number 2 and 3 are well aware of number one but number one is none the wiser. IMPo to each his own. If you want to be with a person who is already with someone else wether knowingly or unbeknownst to you, I shall not judge (mainly because he who is without sin should cast the ONLY stone). In no way am I perfect, and in no way do I believe that these preset gender bias social standards are the standards by which you should live your life. Now in no way am I endorsing being someones mistress. What I am saying is this, in anyting in life do it the way you want to. Be you, do what you do. I am marching to the beat of my own drum, I can’t hear your music sonnn.

What we really mean...

(1) 'Fine': This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) 'Five Minutes': If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Fi ve minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) 'Nothing': This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) 'Go Ahead': This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!;

(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) 'That's Okay': This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) 'Thanks': A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' ... that will bring on a 'whatever').

(8) 'Whatever': Is a women's way of saying 'F___ YOU!'

(9) 'Don't worry about it, I got it': Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?'' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

Didnt write this...thought it was cute tho.

The Kid is 20.

*It;s been twenty years already?....reflection blog

No that nigg♥ quote of the week....

* I lie to you because I care about your feelings

...I think Tyrese said this in Baby Boy, however I have personally been told this several times from several guys.

*Disclaimer*
The picture above is for illustration purposes only, although he himself has given this site some amazingly dumbass quotes he is not the author of the quote above.

ProcrastiNATION...it's where/what you don't do....Today.

Greatest nation in the world...were your truely resides in case you were wondering...
* ProcrastiNATION builds character, reflexes, ability to handle stress, and work well under pressure. Trust me I know what I’m talking about…I’m not only a resident, I’m the president.

N-ggas, not MEN

The ABC’s of n-ggas
One thing that I have learned is that
An “Act Right” ass nigga is probably only good for just that and should be treated accordingly, because more than likely he has one or more of the other character traits that disqualifies him from being more than a “n-gga”.

A b-tch ass n-gga will be just that…a b-tch ass n-gga, that will do B-tch ass sh-t.

A cocky ass n-gga is trying messing with you and your roommate because he thinks he can

You will never learn anything from a dumb ass n-gga.

Fake ass n-ggas are to be avoided like the plague.

A broke ass n-gga IS THE PLAGUE and should be a single ass n-gga, because he just as these others has nothing to offer.

and this is a Vee orginal.

A hoe ass n-gga will give you an std.

A lame ass n-gga might rub off on ya…(and who wants that)

You cant bring your friends around a trifiling ass n-gga

This is exactly why we left n-ggas in '03...we want real MEN.